Transvestia

to which some people can carry the distinction between what is masculine and what is strictly feminine. However, even the individual wife who really wants to understand has a difficult time because she is thinking in female terms while the TV is a male trying to identify with femininity. As a male he shares a shortcoming common to all men, namely that he really doesn't understand women. (There are a few exceptions).. He is trying to identify with his man's concept of woman and is there- fore trying to identify with a woman who really doesn't exist. The things which he craves most in his femininity are not that important to his wife so that as a woman she cannot comprehend how they could be so desireable as to justify the disrupting influence they have on their lives. The average woman likes nice clothes and wants to appear attractive, but to the good wife her role as a wife and as a mother are much more important. Yet nowhere in all the fiction which portrays the TV being able to assume the feminine role in appearance, in domestic chores or business occupation or even as the passive partner in the sexual role, nowhere is there any expression of a desire to assume a maternal role. The woman likes nice clothes for the appearance they create, but she gets no thrill or particular tactile pleasure, (and I have inquired of femi- nine, fashionable women), out of putting on or wearing feminine clothes. There is much written in TRANSVESTIA about the thrill of wearing frilly lingerie or nylon stock- ings. But such ecstasy is unknown to the woman and it is therefore hard for her to accept the idea that such pleasures exist for her husband to such a degree that they must threaten her relationship with the man she wants to love and respect and which even may endanger the emot- ional stability of her children. She can't understand why the girdle and high heels that she can't wait to take off are such a source of compulsive desire to her husband. In her sex relations where the spiritual pleasure plays a greater part in her pleasure than it does in the man's pleasure it may be difficult for her to feel that she is submitting to her aggressive lover when she has a mental picture of him in feminine clothing, emulating a femi- nine figure and mannerisms. His activities interfere with her concept of his manliness and his feminine side does not coincide with her sense of orderliness and puts most of it's emphasis on only one aspect of femininity. I sus- pect that were it possible for a man to be transformed

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